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Feminism

Feminism.  Well, I think we all know the  basics of that, dont we?  I remember as a young child reading about dear Emily Pankhurst & Co, or it may have been something on tv.  Anyway, I remember thinking, ‘When I can vote I am so not going to let those ladies down’.  ‘I will always vote’.  My big sister never voted, couldnt be bothered and I used to chastise her.  ‘Do you know what those women went through!…..‘  I used to yell, and so on and so forth. As I get older and even more sexier ;), the point is, what those beautiful and honourable ladies started in their quest for votes for women was the thought process of women being equal to men and they did all that so that we could have a choice really. So if my big sis chooses not to vote, then thats her choice isnt it?

Likewise if I choose to wear green, red or black, paint my face, wear killer heels, dress down or up or even, God forbid, become a floozy ;) – thats my choice.  Isnt it?  Yes. What’s brought all this on? I hear you say.  Well, I went to The Criterion Restaurant the other day, its on Picadilly and guess what? That is where the suffragettes used to meet.  What a stylish place to meet, very impressive.

Now then, having said all of the above, and having had 92 years of voting rights and 50 years of sexual revolution (not me personally of course), we still have a dilemma.  I like men (gentlemen) to treat me like a lady.  I like being feminine.  I like to call men ‘gentlemen’ because I can and I want to and there aren’t too many people out there who can stop me doing what I choose to do.

So, what exactly is a ‘lady’?  Well, in my humble opinion, it is someone who has impeccable manners, goes out of her way to make someone feel comfortable, is gracious, charming and kind.  She in addition may be sophisticated, elegant, educated, cultured and well connected, but not necessarily so.  The key, I think ( and please do tell me if you disagree), the key is in these words; respectful, gracious, charming and kind.

If someone thinks that I am worth treating like a lady, it does not mean that I am weak, it does not mean that I need looking after.  It means that they like me enough to look out for me, make my life a little bit more comfortable. Likewise, I like to look after my fellas, in any way that I can.  I like to behave like a lady.

Years of the vile  lad and ladette culture, it seems to me has bred a mindset of total disrespect for themselves and others. and I am not talking soley about teenagers here. I dont tend to go out to bars or clubs – actually never.  Alright,  maybe the odd exquisite champagne bar.  But I had a little experience lately and I also see these things on forums – escort related forums.  Some of these men are so utterly disrespectful of women, no actually, of other human beings and therefore themselves that I do wonder if the age of chivalry is lost forever.  Im not talking about knights and shining armour here, (or should that be amour? ;) Im talking about basic human decency like getting up out of a seat because someone else  either needs it more than you or because you want to brighten someone’s day or even holding a door open for someone (male or female) or even, yes even being kind for the sake of it.

Of course we also have the other side of the coin.  The feminazi who if truth be told are a little bonkers really.  The militant feminists, I think, have never done us any favours.  Its all gone a little bit wrong. Seeing good manners as offensive behaviour is never going to be good or progressive.

Here’s the thing.  If you dont respect yourself, you surely cant expect someone else to respect you.  Likewise, why oh why would you want to spend your life disrespecting other people?  Is that a reflection on your inner self? So maybe this ardent feminism has garnered the totally opposite effect to what was wanted.  Instead of having men respect women as valuable members of society we have a selection of folks who hate each other.

I was on the tube the other day (yes, now I live here in London, I travel on the tube, just until I get my car and driver, of course hehe :)  and an elderly lady and gent got on.  I was sat down and immediately got up to give the lady my seat. Its what you do isnt it?  I never dreamt that she may be offended at that and she wasnt but I have heard tales of you fellas doing that for a lady, any lady and you get told off.  You wont from me, thats for sure.  Now, I am not saying I am Mother Theresa for getting up or anything like that, not better than anyone else and I dont want a medal.  But no-one else was going to do that and when I did it, the guy next to me then stood up to let the man sit down too.  Everyone else looked as though something weird had happened.   There was a very uncomfortable vibe.

What is all this about? and what on earth has that got to do with feminism?  Its more to do with the respect thing really, somewhere along the line, its all got a little bit muddled up.  All of the ladies I know would love guys to be gentlemen again.  Lets bring back Emily and get a movement going – ‘Seats for Women!’ and not just in parliament, or maybe we could sit on your knee? ;)